"You simply move on.
You do not blame yourself for what happened because it takes two to dance ... and two to make a misstep.
You do not throw away your self-esteem because things like this happen to everyone.
And you make very definite resolutions to LEARN from this experience without regret or accusation ...
Hoping to be wiser but not harder, Stronger but not bitter.
Because you are simply growing."
And here 's another one.
"What is done should be done and over with. The most important part of moving on is to end habits, stop expectations and put a valve to opportunities that may lead to further hurt."
"STOP GETTING HURT ... by finding out that there is someone, something or even a whole big world that is much better and waiting for you."
I did not write these. A friend did when I poured my heart out a couple of nights ago. The bits of advice helped a lot.
Another effective advice was this: When memories of her enter my head don't let them linger, let them pass through. Quickly.
That's why I'll finally start moving on. Today.
And NOT beat myself in the head thinking of the what ifs.
Everything happens for a reason.